B.J. Porter

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    Is football dying?

    It's dead to me for the time being.
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    Electrical Issues

    Pretty sure you can get those switches with a lock on them, if you have a regular infestation of idiots on your boat.
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    When did No. 6 get banned, and why?

    Yeah, he was surprisingly cordial to my face when we met. In spite of our numerous differences and clashes on line. A year or two later he's stalking me across threads and accusing me of murder...go figure. ------------- I didn't get fully outed until I went cruising full time and dropped off the grid for a week or two. Prior to that, there were numerous attempts by No.6, Grumpy, and few others to spread the word that I was a moderator, but I quashed them before they could get any traction in the general community. But once I was out of range and couldn't defend myself against the constant, my privacy came to an end. The resulting never ending shitstorm of personal attacks was utterly predictable, and completely justified our decision to keep my ID quiet as long as possible. I made the mistake of trusting the wrong person with the information, and that person unintentionally put it in the hands of those who would later become my detractors. It's water under the bridge now since I'm done with the job, it's all over but the ongoing lies and attacks every time a thread like this happens...
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    pancakes

    This is how we do it now that we've sailed out of range of Bisquick. It's better for you anyway. Pancakes 1 1/2 Cup Flour 1 1/4 Cup Milk 1 Tablespoon Sugar 3 1/2 Teaspoon Baking Powder 1 Teaspoon Salt Dash Vanilla 1 Egg 3 Tablesppons butter, Melted. Mix it all together, cook it like a pancake. Nothing fancy about separating eggs, buttermilk or whipping stuff up. Just KISS with staples we always have on the boat.
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    And they're off again...

    Ok, I missed that. Perhaps they'll leave the dogs with parents when they go foreign, but I don't see them being able to afford Bahamas, Cuba, or the eastern Caribbean. They simply don't have the money and won't be permitted to work. They could cruise the western Carribbean cheaply, but likely to end up on a reef. I'm not seeing it either. Well, except maybe the reef.
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    And they're off again...

    They say they are planning the Bahamas, Cuba, and Caribbean. After they move around to a different spot where they can work on the boat for a while cheap.
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    And they're off again...

    What kinds of idiot acquires *more* dogs before heading off cruising internationally? It's not just feeding those mouths, it's the shots and the paperwork.
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    When did No. 6 get banned, and why?

    From what I can tell, he's back with a sock. His original accounts were all permanently banned as far as I know. He's one of those guys that constantly bitches and complains about how hard this place sucks and how it's been ruined, but he can't seem to keep away.
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    When did No. 6 get banned, and why?

    I have no idea what T_D is. You can walk any time from a volunteer position. I did.
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    When did No. 6 get banned, and why?

    If it was a "job" I would have been paid, no? I volunteered because I liked the community.
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    When did No. 6 get banned, and why?

    I guess I should leave vile slander unanswered then, eh? I don't see why I would do that since these forums are publicly searchable amd the slander ia linked to my real name. If it was private it would matter less. Unwilling is different than incapable. And I see no reason I should be willing to eat shit.
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    Michael Cohen

    1960sautomotiveupholstery.com I think.
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    Things To Do In London

    I must say, this thread hasn't been as useful as I'd hoped. We're headed to the UK in a couple of weeks for Will's graduation. We'll be a week or so in Southampton, then to France for a bit, then a week in London with my parents, and another week in the Southampton area for the actual graduation. We're still setting the agenda for stuff to see. I think beers with the Major are off the list though.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    I didn't have my own car, I was always using my parents. But they had two, so there was one extra for my sister and I to fight over each weekend until she went to college. I think with your latter point, we diagnose a lot more things differently and more effectively than we did a generation ago. A child who was "autistic" in the eighties was often viewed as barely able to be socialized, there was little concept of a "spectrum" like we have now in the general public. That has lead to a lot more diagnoses on the spectrum than there were back in the 80s. Which makes it look like we've had this huge spike in autism, where we really have had more diagnoses. And some destygmatization of the word, and the addition of other spectrum diagnoses like Asperger's which still count into overall autism stats. I think the same applies to ADHD - this wasn't even a thing when we were kids. You had some kids that were spastic, rowdy, etc. but they didn't have a medical classification or a course of treatment. Or even an idea that medical treatment was an option.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    Even if I did have one, when my son moves into his own place and buys his own car to drive to work in a couple of months, he's going to hammered on insurance. That's the way of it, a single male under 25 that owns his own car but doesn't own a home will get completely screwed trying to insure even an old POS car. Check around, you'll be appalled.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    Hell, a chimp can peel a banana. It's not new. Parents have always had different ways of bringing up kids. Some have detailed lists of chore charts with gold stars and responsibilities, others let their kids run feral and be responsible for nothing. Somewhere between those extremes I think is where you want to be.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    Maybe. I think a LOT of what we do with kids today is a bit of a disservice, they way we put so much pressure on them with such crazy mad schedules. Sure they're "enriched" if they are playing one or more team sports, taking an instrument, volunteering, and doing a play...but they also have ZERO time to just be kids. What kids now just spend a day lazing around a fishing hole with their friends, or walking in the woods or building a fort? It's all so structured. And if you're the one parent leaving your kids unstructured, there's no one else around them to play with because the other kids are all at day camp, music camp, lacrosse camp, etc. etc, and they've still got a million other things in their schedule if they're not sleeping away. We made an effort to try and limit the commitments with our kids. With schools piling on homework even in elementary school, there isn't a hell of a lot of a time for kids to just play with their shit and learn to amuse themselves. If you hyperschedule your kid on top of that, they are busy and running around every waking moment with little chance for just creative, unstructured play and being kids. There is so much pressure, with parents of elementary aged thinking about aiming and grooming their kids for college applications some day. Hell, I can't imagine a single thing you do with your life before 9th grade that should be *that* critical unless you're the second coming of Yoyo Ma or something. I remember when we lived in NY people talking about prestigious pre-schools there for college track educations that you basically had to get on a waiting list for about the day after you got your positive pregnancy test back. That's my take on it. I'm no expert, but I think my kids are turning out OK so far not being groomed for college prep from pre-school.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    When my kids were 7 & 10 they were packing their own lunches and cooking themselves breakfast. It CAN be done, but a lot of people don't do it. When I was a stay at home dad I was a bit of a task master as I wanted independent, capable kids from an early age. If your kids can't cook a minimal amount of food and do their own laundry, there's something wrong with what you're doing. Then again, I know people whose kids were completely helpless into their 20's to do more than microwave a TV dinner and spray their underwear with Febreeze until mom did laundry again.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    Yeah, I after my freshman year in college I stopped coming home. I got jobs up near school, and never lived with my parents after graduation. But...things were very different economically then. My senior year in college cost something like $16k, which seems ridiculous compared to what we'll be shelling out for my daughter this year. I graduated with debt, but it was something like $10-15K, not $100,000 - $150,000. That that we could easily by a house a couple of years after college like our parents generation could, but we still were WAY ahead of today's graduating kids in terms of debt and job opportunities.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    Until you either turn 25, get married, or buy a house - or preferably some combination of all three - you WILL get ripped by the insurance companies. I didn't pull those numbers out of my ass, I pulled them off a web site talking about current pricing. When I was 21 in 1988 I got quoted from $2,100 up to $5,100 per year to insure a new Toyota Tercel in Providence. I only paid $8,600 for the car. When I first bought it I registered in my parents name with me on a driver, it was the only way to keep it below $1,000/year. But really aren't supposed to do that unless you're still considered a dependent. The market hasn't gotten any more friendly in that time.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    Where I lived outside Cincinnati, there was nothing nearby. It was a 25 minute drive to school. It was a 40 minute drive to my girlfriend's house. I could take a bus to get there...if I could get a ride the five miles or so to the bus stop, since the bus didn't anywhere near my house. None of my school friends lived anywhere near me. A driver's license was...imperative. I had mine as quickly as possible after turning 16.
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    The rise in Teen depression and mental health

    Our biggest problem getting our kids drivers licenses is we don't own a car. It's not like it's a good idea to teach your kid on a rental. And we're not in the US, and they drive on the wrong side of the road everywhere our children are. If we lived in a house on land they would have gotten one ASAP after turning 16, no doubt. My son will probably get a license as soon as he gets settled in where he's going to live and work after graduation this summer. We're going to encourage my daughter to try and get a license fairly quickly when she arrives in the US for college. Given where he school is, I'm guessing a lot of kids want to be able to drive to get off campus. I'm pretty sure my kids won't be living with me for years after they graduate... If you think about it though, it makes more sense given the economic realities kids are facing that if they don't *need* to drive they won't get a car. Cars can be bought for not to much money, but if you are a 22 year old single male good luck with insurance. Some quick research for my kid shows he's probably going to pay $2500 - $4,000 or more for insurance per year until he's 25. Add that to buying the car, paying taxes on it, fuel costs, and parking it if you don't live someplace that includes a spot...
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    When did No. 6 get banned, and why?

    The high road? Do you have the first clue of how much personal abuse and bullshit I've put up with from some of these clowns over the years? I'm guessing not. Compared to the crap they've flung at me and my family the behavior you're complaining about is nothing. I'm a sailor too, you know, and that has never stopped these guys from striking at me, my character, and even my family and life outside of SA. I'd also like to add that I've got nothing to hide or be ashamed of during my tenure here. "Some sort of a role" moderating was actually "being involved with nearly all aspects of it for almost 15 years" and at times sucking up a great deal of my time. There has been a lot of stuff done behind the scenes to keep this place from devolving into endless shit fights and trolling. But I've never hidden behind a screen name, and have made no bones about who I am. Anyone with half a brain can figure out how to reach me in about a minute with Google. There's little difference between me on line and in real life. If you take a shot at me, I'll take a shot back. It's pretty simple. And I have *zero* problem being embarrassed to walk into any sailor bar or yacht club in the world. And I've had no problem meeting several of my worst detractors face-to-face, though it may shock you that none of them had the guts to try their shtick IRL.