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      A Few Simple Rules   05/22/2017

      Sailing Anarchy is a very lightly moderated site. This is by design, to afford a more free atmosphere for discussion. There are plenty of sailing forums you can go to where swearing isn't allowed, confrontation is squelched and, and you can have a moderator finger-wag at you for your attitude. SA tries to avoid that and allow for more adult behavior without moderators editing your posts and whacking knuckles with rulers. We don't have a long list of published "thou shalt nots" either, and this is by design. Too many absolute rules paints us into too many corners. So check the Terms of Service - there IS language there about certain types of behavior that is not permitted. We interpret that lightly and permit a lot of latitude, but we DO reserve the right to take action when something is too extreme to tolerate (too racist, graphic, violent, misogynistic, etc.). Yes, that is subjective, but it allows us discretion. Avoiding a laundry list of rules allows for freedom; don't abuse it. However there ARE a few basic rules that will earn you a suspension, and apparently a brief refresher is in order. 1) Allegations of pedophilia - there is no tolerance for this. So if you make allegations, jokes, innuendo or suggestions about child molestation, child pornography, abuse or inappropriate behavior with minors etc. about someone on this board you will get a time out. This is pretty much automatic; this behavior can have real world effect and is not acceptable. Obviously the subject is not banned when discussion of it is apropos, e.g. talking about an item in the news for instance. But allegations or references directed at or about another poster is verboten. 2) Outing people - providing real world identifiable information about users on the forums who prefer to remain anonymous. Yes, some of us post with our real names - not a problem to use them. However many do NOT, and if you find out someone's name keep it to yourself, first or last. This also goes for other identifying information too - employer information etc. You don't need too many pieces of data to figure out who someone really is these days. Depending on severity you might get anything from a scolding to a suspension - so don't do it. I know it can be confusing sometimes for newcomers, as SA has been around almost twenty years and there are some people that throw their real names around and their current Display Name may not match the name they have out in the public. But if in doubt, you don't want to accidentally out some one so use caution, even if it's a personal friend of yours in real life. 3) Posting While Suspended - If you've earned a timeout (these are fairly rare and hard to get), please observe the suspension. If you create a new account (a "Sock Puppet") and return to the forums to post with it before your suspension is up you WILL get more time added to your original suspension and lose your Socks. This behavior may result a permanent ban, since it shows you have zero respect for the few rules we have and the moderating team that is tasked with supporting them. Check the Terms of Service you agreed to; they apply to the individual agreeing, not the account you created, so don't try to Sea Lawyer us if you get caught. Just don't do it. Those are the three that will almost certainly get you into some trouble. IF YOU SEE SOMEONE DO ONE OF THESE THINGS, please do the following: Refrain from quoting the offending text, it makes the thread cleanup a pain in the rear Press the Report button; it is by far the best way to notify Admins as we will get e-mails. Calling out for Admins in the middle of threads, sending us PM's, etc. - there is no guarantee we will get those in a timely fashion. There are multiple Moderators in multiple time zones around the world, and anyone one of us can handle the Report and all of us will be notified about it. But if you PM one Mod directly and he's off line, the problem will get dealt with much more slowly. Other behaviors that you might want to think twice before doing include: Intentionally disrupting threads and discussions repeatedly. Off topic/content free trolling in threads to disrupt dialog Stalking users around the forums with the intent to disrupt content and discussion Repeated posting of overly graphic or scatological porn content. There are plenty web sites for you to get your freak on, don't do it here. And a brief note to Newbies... No, we will not ban people or censor them for dropping F-bombs on you, using foul language, etc. so please don't report it when one of our members gives you a greeting you may find shocking. We do our best not to censor content here and playing swearword police is not in our job descriptions. Sailing Anarchy is more like a bar than a classroom, so handle it like you would meeting someone a little coarse - don't look for the teacher. Thanks.

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  1. It always killed me to see a C&C 37+ (I think) in Shilshole marina that never moved and had moss and mold all over, rotting canvas everywhere, aptly named "Amnesia". Made me think the owner had planned it.
  2. Catherine, Your storm is almost over. You've held fast. Now I wish you peace. Pete
  3. Oh, we're mean, sneaky bastards alright....;-)
  4. MSG, Glad to hear your doin well through your surgical recovery. When you get a few minutes of downtime, you may want to do a Google search and read up on "TNM staging". It'll give you a better basis for asking questions about your tumor as well as understanding the answers. Should take you about 30 minutes. Or ask your boss, that'll likely cut it to 15. Keep on heeling. NS
  5. Oh yeah, fluid.....Get (and keep on) moving. The more you move the more fluid will get pumped back into your bloodstream, the more your heart and kidneys will process, the faster you'll pee it away. But it takes time. Took me about 2 weeks post op to clear the same amount after my last surgery. I bet you can beat that though.... And when your sitting, put your feet up.
  6. MSG, Finding your strength.....look to Dan, your parents, and those around you for external sources of strength when you can't seem to find your own. Your own will return, but it might need a bit of coaching. In the meantime, those who love you will want nothing more than to give you what strength, encouragement, and help you need. The ostomy.....No one asked you. It's not fair. FUCK! It doesn't matter. It's there, and is necessary. Sitting to shit ain't that great a thing anyway (its just what you're used to). Adapt to it. Take ownership of it before it takes ownership of you (naming it is a little part of that). HOLD FAST NS
  7. MSG, Its 0347 here in the PNW and I just finished reading the thread and learning what you're going through. I'll preface the following with a short tale. No cancer in my case, but I still feel its appropriate to the situation. On Feb 23rd of this year, I had my gallbladder removed. 21 days later I woke up in the ICU, intubated, restrained, with a foley, a huge surgical hernia, on dialysis, and with an ileostomy. Since then, I have had the following opportunities(NOT an exhaustive list), 1) I've learned a great deal about the love I share with my wife. I've learned how strong a force my wife is, and I'm very lucky she's on my side. 2) I've learned how many truly great friends I really have. People who will, without a seconds thought, drop everything they are doing to GIVE their time and energy. 3) I've learned how to accept the help of my friends. 4) I learned to walk again, this time in competition with my friends 1 year old. 5) I've learned that EVERY second can be an opportunity. Do not waste them with self pity (not your style, just sayin') 6) I've learned that I have not only enjoyed the life I have lived, I am proud of it, and accordingly plan to continue living. After 49 days in the hospital, I got to go home, and set to healing and living. 6 months to the day from my initial surgery I returned for my repair. I got home from the hospital a week ago with my surgical hernia repaired and my ileostomy reversed. But since I can't do anything the easy way, my surgical site got infected and now I'm on big, badass, ridiculously expensive antibiotics and have a wound vac attached to my abdomen (I'm vacuum bagged!) Given this, I truly understand your incisional pain from your pelvic bone to your sternum. It sucks. It will get better, every day. The other thing I understand is what you are going through and will go through with your bag. When I woke up in the ICU and was told what happened, had I the strength to move an inch, I would have found a way to eviscerate my surgeon. Then it occurred to me that I could scream, piss, moan, bitch, and be as salty a motherfucker as ever walked the planet, but it wouldn't help me fight through back to health in the least. So I put my nature and instincts aside, and channeled a friend of mine who is the most easy going, zen person I know. With everything that came my way, I learned to take it in stride. I celebrate the good, but with an eye ever to ensuring the lows aren't too far a fall. You've heard it from the nurses I'm sure. You've read it here a hundred times from people who know. You are now in a marathon, not a sprint. And this is the marathon that matters. My zen approach kept me going for the months that followed, until I ended up in the ER because my ileostomy wafer/bag wouldn't stick, I went through a month's supplies in 6 hours and ran out, and had to go to the ER and wait through the night until the ostomy nurse got to work in the morning. This was a turning point. This was my wall. From here I had to get mad. Really, really, really mad. This gave me the strength to keep driving through, because as tired and frustrated as I was, I knew that I was stronger than this thing, and that I would win. (Put this in your quiver) You have to figure out what your approach is going to be, and what will work for you to beat this. You GET to CHOOSE how you are going to live. And remember, you only have to keep pushing through, one moment at a time. As to your bag, making it easy to accept and deal with will depend a lot on your relationship with your wound/ostomy nurse. Demand a relationship that is close and open, where they understand intimately what you are going through, because it will help them understand what you need. And name it. Mine was Salad Shooter (I wish I had come up with that on my own, but even that was gift from a great friend). MSG, you've got a lot of good people around you, and a lot of support. But if you have any questions about anything, PM me, anytime. I'll happily share whatever I can to help you out. I can't begin to understand your roe to hoe, but where ours overlap, I'll happily do what I can. HOLD FAST NS
  8. HB, thanks again for posting your boat rehab project. I've been following along and am learning some cool stuff. Did you see this thread in Fix-It Anarchy? Ignore NM as always and its an interesting approach to your problem. NS
  9. I think you guys hit the nail on the head, but here's my addition. After the past 15 years of incredible secrecy and appearance of impropriety in so many areas of the executive branch, I think there is a real backlash against any candidate who hides or appears to hide who they really are. There is a history with Mrs. Clinton. She created a lot of animosity when she chaired the secretive/closed door Task Force on National Health Care Reform and fought litigation by arguing that the First Lady is in fact a government official, not a private citizen (AND WON! Remember that if you think a vote for one Clinton is not a vote for the other). Historically, her tactics are every bit as secretive as those of the current administration, and she fought as First Lady for more opaque governmental procedures. These things all add up in my mind to a person (I don't give a rat fuck if she's an innie or an outie) who I cannot trust. It kills me that there is such a short attention span/political memory in this country that almost half of the dems are urgently seeking to put her back in the White House despite the disastrous effects in the past 7 years of the lack of transparency of the executive branch, and lack of oversight and checks on the executive branch by courts or congress . Furthermore, her history does not portray someone who is either willing, or has the inclination to bring an end to the divisiveness that pervades the government at this time and will continue to perpetuate the lack of unity in congress resulting in the impotence to provide a serious check to the executive branch. So basically you said it. She's disingenuous. I don't trust her. She is another incarnation of all of the untrustworthy things that Cheney brought to the current administration. The level of hatred for her is born out of frustration that others do not apparently see these things or feel that in spite of them she is still a relevant candidate for the POTUS, not just POTDemParty. NS