SCANAS you sound like a helicopter parent wondering why their little Johnny didn't win a prize for participation or a PB.
Chutzpah will be sinking beers with the quiet satisfaction of a job well done. Anyone who needs more than that is looking in the wrong place for it.
There has to be a simple rating system so there is still something to determine who gets the pickle dish. IRC is the worst rating system except for all those others we tried (IMS anyone?).
Sailing involves weather which turns it into a bit of a lottery sometimes. NEWS FLASH. FILM AT 11. But seriously this happens in OD too, it's not something unique to rating racing. It's part of the sport and you learn to take your lumps.