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      A Few Simple Rules   05/22/2017

      Sailing Anarchy is a very lightly moderated site. This is by design, to afford a more free atmosphere for discussion. There are plenty of sailing forums you can go to where swearing isn't allowed, confrontation is squelched and, and you can have a moderator finger-wag at you for your attitude. SA tries to avoid that and allow for more adult behavior without moderators editing your posts and whacking knuckles with rulers. We don't have a long list of published "thou shalt nots" either, and this is by design. Too many absolute rules paints us into too many corners. So check the Terms of Service - there IS language there about certain types of behavior that is not permitted. We interpret that lightly and permit a lot of latitude, but we DO reserve the right to take action when something is too extreme to tolerate (too racist, graphic, violent, misogynistic, etc.). Yes, that is subjective, but it allows us discretion. Avoiding a laundry list of rules allows for freedom; don't abuse it. However there ARE a few basic rules that will earn you a suspension, and apparently a brief refresher is in order. 1) Allegations of pedophilia - there is no tolerance for this. So if you make allegations, jokes, innuendo or suggestions about child molestation, child pornography, abuse or inappropriate behavior with minors etc. about someone on this board you will get a time out. This is pretty much automatic; this behavior can have real world effect and is not acceptable. Obviously the subject is not banned when discussion of it is apropos, e.g. talking about an item in the news for instance. But allegations or references directed at or about another poster is verboten. 2) Outing people - providing real world identifiable information about users on the forums who prefer to remain anonymous. Yes, some of us post with our real names - not a problem to use them. However many do NOT, and if you find out someone's name keep it to yourself, first or last. This also goes for other identifying information too - employer information etc. You don't need too many pieces of data to figure out who someone really is these days. Depending on severity you might get anything from a scolding to a suspension - so don't do it. I know it can be confusing sometimes for newcomers, as SA has been around almost twenty years and there are some people that throw their real names around and their current Display Name may not match the name they have out in the public. But if in doubt, you don't want to accidentally out some one so use caution, even if it's a personal friend of yours in real life. 3) Posting While Suspended - If you've earned a timeout (these are fairly rare and hard to get), please observe the suspension. If you create a new account (a "Sock Puppet") and return to the forums to post with it before your suspension is up you WILL get more time added to your original suspension and lose your Socks. This behavior may result a permanent ban, since it shows you have zero respect for the few rules we have and the moderating team that is tasked with supporting them. Check the Terms of Service you agreed to; they apply to the individual agreeing, not the account you created, so don't try to Sea Lawyer us if you get caught. Just don't do it. Those are the three that will almost certainly get you into some trouble. IF YOU SEE SOMEONE DO ONE OF THESE THINGS, please do the following: Refrain from quoting the offending text, it makes the thread cleanup a pain in the rear Press the Report button; it is by far the best way to notify Admins as we will get e-mails. Calling out for Admins in the middle of threads, sending us PM's, etc. - there is no guarantee we will get those in a timely fashion. There are multiple Moderators in multiple time zones around the world, and anyone one of us can handle the Report and all of us will be notified about it. But if you PM one Mod directly and he's off line, the problem will get dealt with much more slowly. Other behaviors that you might want to think twice before doing include: Intentionally disrupting threads and discussions repeatedly. Off topic/content free trolling in threads to disrupt dialog Stalking users around the forums with the intent to disrupt content and discussion Repeated posting of overly graphic or scatological porn content. There are plenty web sites for you to get your freak on, don't do it here. And a brief note to Newbies... No, we will not ban people or censor them for dropping F-bombs on you, using foul language, etc. so please don't report it when one of our members gives you a greeting you may find shocking. We do our best not to censor content here and playing swearword police is not in our job descriptions. Sailing Anarchy is more like a bar than a classroom, so handle it like you would meeting someone a little coarse - don't look for the teacher. Thanks.

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  1. I'd rather be lucky than smart - I'm far better at it. My motto for many years and still true. When last I posted in January I had completed treatment for throat cancer (interesting to have the Michael Douglas commentary on the press since we share that boat) and I was headed in for ACL replacement. Both threads of my life have seeming worked out so far and I'm headed off tomorrow for the Van Isle 360 - 2013 version. I'll carry no guilt for being lucky, only remorse for those whose voyages have been cut short by cancer.
  2. Hopefully I can add one to the survivor side of the list. Got home from Cowes Week last august with a case of the crud I obviously got flying cattle car style from Heathrow to Seattle via Dallas. After a week and a half of coughing and wheezing (and sharing it with my wife) I was in talking with my GP about blood pressure medication and he asked if there were any health changes. I mentioned the gland in my neck that had swollen up which I thought was due to the cold. He looked at it and said to come back to check in a couple of weeks. When I did it was possibly ever so slightly smaller but not gone - we gave it one more week and then started testing. Turned out to be Squamis cell carcenoma which we finally tracked down to my left tonsil site (tonsils came out when I was a kid). Radiation and chemo started late October and finished right before the holiday break. One hell of a diet program is all I can say. Swallowing got to be problematic for a while, my hearing has suffered, my taste buds are shot, etc but the tumor receeded better than they had hoped so now I'm in limbo waiting for the followup scans to see if it's gone. Gotta wait for 2-3 mo following treatment to get a good scan. Having gone thru my wife's breast, endrimetrial, and brain cancer episodes I have always said I hate cancer with every cell in my body - my thoughts are unchanged. I've had it relatively easy I know but I hope to be able to add one to the win column. Van Isle 360 is on the horizon, I go in tomorrow for ACL replacement surgery but I can well and truly say I'm feeling better ever damn day. Cancer is a bump in the road - not the journey.
  3. My aunt on my mothers side (oldest of 6 kids) had Cancer and chemo when she was 56 yrs old - she's now 98. As they say - results vary so check the "long time from now" box on the questionaire and don't look back. Every single day from now on is just that much more golden. Attitude is the driver and it sounds like you've got the pedal to the metal. Go the Catherine!!!
  4. When my wife started her chemo she had returned to teaching her 6th grade class so that the kids didn't have to suffer the confusion of changing teachers late in the school year (it was in May by then). As is the norm for kids of that age the hormones were starting to roll and though they were somewhat quieted for a week or so after she returned from surgery they were soon back to bouncing off the walls. As her hair started to go she had it cut short. One day when they were being extra rowdy she grabbed a couple of hands full and shouted out "You kids make me so angry I could just..." and pulled 2 bunches out. As the ads say - the resulting looks from the students was PRICELESS! Tactic has been used by a couple other teachers going thru the same journey and never fails to get them! Pick your times and you can wow em!! PS - she looked great bald - never wore scarfs or wigs - just a big smile and some great hats when it was cold out! And when it grew back she could chide me for whom it will never return. GO THE CATHERINE!
  5. MSG, My experience on getting my wife & lover thru Chemo here in the Great Northwet: Attitude is #1 priority and damn hard to keep up all the time - do your best and let all our love and prayers flow in. We are all there to help the spirit. You will need someone to help when getting the drugs - both the chemo drugs and the "good" ones to keep you human. You will feel like sending everyone away – my advise is don’t – you will be compromised and you can (and have already) pay it forward later – it’s your turn to receive. You’re the skipper – keep a good crew on deck with you. Critical to my experience is to have the helper(s) keep records of EVERYTHING that goes both in and out of you. Timing is critical as you will be at the intersection of many rhythms - food is at different times, some anti-nausea drugs are 6 hr cycle, some 8, some 12, etc and dosages can be adjusted by the doctors to fine tune the effects. The medical staff can only start with their best guess of what will work to keep you from going over the edge - you (and your "staff") will be invaluable if you can recognized the rhythms (lifts and headers?) and help them fine tune things. My wife would go along fine for a while and then just erupt. We kept looking at the records and finally recognized the problems were cyclic with one of the longer phase drugs getting near the end of its cycle - upping the dose of that one a bit made all the difference in calming the swings. Several friends have had similar experiences and the doctors will be amazed with the feedback – most people just sit back and let them run the show – be proactive!!! If something is not working - tell them - they truly want to help. Foods will be great and then 2 minutes later will be repugnant - smells will be a new science. Simple soft non-smelling foods are best. Tapioca was her favorite. Keep working the problems - like the big C they all can be minimized if not completely trounced. Cancer is not the journey – it’s a bump in the road. . Our predictions were 2-3 yrs at the outside – it’s been 6 and every damn day is a blessing! Our prayers are flowing for you. Go the Catherine!