I think you've nailed it on the head, Jack.
I've been reflecting a lot today about John Hume, the whole GFA period and where we are now as a society. That point you make about listening is hugely relevant. I'm a child of the Troubles and remember the excitement there was at the time of the Goof Friday referendum. I voted yes and am still a passionate supporter of it. I remember at the time there was a feeling over here that things would change. We had a new opportunity. Violence had failed. (In my opinion, violence has never worked in Ireland - be that British forces, armed Republicanism or Loyalism. Even the Easter Rising was, at the time a failure and only brought about the change it did as a result of the British reaction). We got the GFA because people like John Hume, Gerry Adams, David Trimble and David Ervine (among many others) talked and actually listened. We as a people and country would talk, we would listen and form a new way forward together. Things wouldn't be the same.
Fast forward 20 years and so much remains the same. I feel that in many ways the two communities are further apart than they were in 1998. Many of the new generation have the hatred of previous generations but without the knowledge of the tragic consequences that brings if left unchallenged. There has been much talk from all sides about reaching out, new beginnings, equality and respect....but it's all just talk because too many people on both sides are listening with closed ears and hard hearts.
You mention Martin McGuiness. Look what happened in the end between him and Ian Paisley. They talked, listened and formed a genuine friendship that lasted to the end. If only that had happened more in the Civil Rights era or around Sunningdale (one of many monumental own-goals by political Unionism). How different would thousands of lives be? Thanks for posting that picture of the Peace Bridge and what a loss in the space of one week. Makes the bridge even more special to me now.
Apologies for the rambling and thread drift! Best get this back to Brexit....which is a complete disaster for Northern Ireland, largely in part to the incompetence of the DUP....