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      A Few Simple Rules   05/22/2017

      Sailing Anarchy is a very lightly moderated site. This is by design, to afford a more free atmosphere for discussion. There are plenty of sailing forums you can go to where swearing isn't allowed, confrontation is squelched and, and you can have a moderator finger-wag at you for your attitude. SA tries to avoid that and allow for more adult behavior without moderators editing your posts and whacking knuckles with rulers. We don't have a long list of published "thou shalt nots" either, and this is by design. Too many absolute rules paints us into too many corners. So check the Terms of Service - there IS language there about certain types of behavior that is not permitted. We interpret that lightly and permit a lot of latitude, but we DO reserve the right to take action when something is too extreme to tolerate (too racist, graphic, violent, misogynistic, etc.). Yes, that is subjective, but it allows us discretion. Avoiding a laundry list of rules allows for freedom; don't abuse it. However there ARE a few basic rules that will earn you a suspension, and apparently a brief refresher is in order. 1) Allegations of pedophilia - there is no tolerance for this. So if you make allegations, jokes, innuendo or suggestions about child molestation, child pornography, abuse or inappropriate behavior with minors etc. about someone on this board you will get a time out. This is pretty much automatic; this behavior can have real world effect and is not acceptable. Obviously the subject is not banned when discussion of it is apropos, e.g. talking about an item in the news for instance. But allegations or references directed at or about another poster is verboten. 2) Outing people - providing real world identifiable information about users on the forums who prefer to remain anonymous. Yes, some of us post with our real names - not a problem to use them. However many do NOT, and if you find out someone's name keep it to yourself, first or last. This also goes for other identifying information too - employer information etc. You don't need too many pieces of data to figure out who someone really is these days. Depending on severity you might get anything from a scolding to a suspension - so don't do it. I know it can be confusing sometimes for newcomers, as SA has been around almost twenty years and there are some people that throw their real names around and their current Display Name may not match the name they have out in the public. But if in doubt, you don't want to accidentally out some one so use caution, even if it's a personal friend of yours in real life. 3) Posting While Suspended - If you've earned a timeout (these are fairly rare and hard to get), please observe the suspension. If you create a new account (a "Sock Puppet") and return to the forums to post with it before your suspension is up you WILL get more time added to your original suspension and lose your Socks. This behavior may result a permanent ban, since it shows you have zero respect for the few rules we have and the moderating team that is tasked with supporting them. Check the Terms of Service you agreed to; they apply to the individual agreeing, not the account you created, so don't try to Sea Lawyer us if you get caught. Just don't do it. Those are the three that will almost certainly get you into some trouble. IF YOU SEE SOMEONE DO ONE OF THESE THINGS, please do the following: Refrain from quoting the offending text, it makes the thread cleanup a pain in the rear Press the Report button; it is by far the best way to notify Admins as we will get e-mails. Calling out for Admins in the middle of threads, sending us PM's, etc. - there is no guarantee we will get those in a timely fashion. There are multiple Moderators in multiple time zones around the world, and anyone one of us can handle the Report and all of us will be notified about it. But if you PM one Mod directly and he's off line, the problem will get dealt with much more slowly. Other behaviors that you might want to think twice before doing include: Intentionally disrupting threads and discussions repeatedly. Off topic/content free trolling in threads to disrupt dialog Stalking users around the forums with the intent to disrupt content and discussion Repeated posting of overly graphic or scatological porn content. There are plenty web sites for you to get your freak on, don't do it here. And a brief note to Newbies... No, we will not ban people or censor them for dropping F-bombs on you, using foul language, etc. so please don't report it when one of our members gives you a greeting you may find shocking. We do our best not to censor content here and playing swearword police is not in our job descriptions. Sailing Anarchy is more like a bar than a classroom, so handle it like you would meeting someone a little coarse - don't look for the teacher. Thanks.

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  1. Take the kiddo aboard as soon as you can; just get used to it, the kid will thrive. Mine started at 2 months (for the March birthday) and 7 months (for the October birthday). Back in the baby days, long long ago, we were sailing a Cape Dory 22'. I throughbolted some webbing to the cabin sole so I could strap down a carseat. When the second boy came along 2 years later, I added another; they'd sit, fore and aft aligned, infant car seat and big boy car seat. I was always a bit fanatic about stowing everything so things don't fly around down below when under way - old-school obsession of mine. Worrying that my infant's skull would be dented by stray frying pans or foghorns only made me more so! We cruised on great lakes 2 weeks aboard with 1 and 3 year olds, 3 weeks with 2 and 4 yr olds. I never used netting on the life lines. Well, that boat didn't have life lines, come to think of it, which eliminated that decision..... Nylon dog leashes are your friend. Most infant and toddler lifejackets have a big "handle" on the ruff-like float around their neck. If you've pre-tied a few dog leashes to the boat (leashes have a convenient loop on the end...affix to handrails for example)... then all you have to do is "snap on" to the big handle on the life jacket. Then the toddler can roam around the cockpit and lazarette hatch etc on their own. Going forward - in my experience kids LOVE to go forward - just clip an extra dog leash on the PFD handle, and "walk" them forward. No problem. I only lost a boy over the side once, and I pulled him right up by his leash, spluttering and furious, but no worse for the wear (age about 3). I was singlehanding at the time, and he was about 3, sitting on the lazarette hatch, towing a toy boat, then suddenly he was in the water with the toy boat, but the dog leash tether fetched up. A nylon web dog lead that can hold a full sized rottweiler when bolting is strong enough for one small child, believe me. And they are around $8 so you can afford to have lots of them, conveniently placed. I always called the PFDs "boat coats". I kept them in the CAR, not the boat. When you go down to the boat, then, as you get out of the car, you tell kids "put on your boat coats" and this becomes absolutely automatic after a few years. No kids loose running on the dock without PFDs, no plundering in the vee berth looking for PFDs etc etc. Boat coats are on 100% of the time, from when you leave the car. Buy a long handled crab net or fish landing net and keep it handy below. Kids throw the damnedest things over the side and then have a complete meltdown because they've lost their favorite toy, boat, teddy, bottle.... it's good sailing practice anyway to go retrieve these lost treasures, but a helluva lot easier with a big crab net. And you will do this drill a lot. Keep a special boat teddy bear on board. My sons are in their 20s now and both avid sailors. They think their sailing mom is crazy, but that just shows they are sane. I still take a lot of little kids out, friends kids and grandkids, club associates, etc. I'm always astonished how few people are willing to sail with a child. Children can love to sail! Just have a supply of good boat coats, dog leashes, a lot of crackers and juice... and head on out. good luck with your new adventure (which will comprise a great deal more than sailing, of course...)