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Bob Perry

The world loses a great young sailor

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I don't want to burden you with this but you are my sailing family.

My 30 year old son, Spike, died last night from a viral infection.

 

We will have a real Irsh wake for him

 

For now I am in this sureal world.

 

But I know we all loved sailors and Spike was one of those you didn't need to tell what to do. He had grown up sailing from day one and he always knew what to do.

 

I'm going to miss my son.

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Bob,

What terrible news. I am so sorry for your loss. Tip one back for me at the wake and know our prayers are with you all.

 

JM

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Thanks you guys.

I'm a bit of a weird world right now. My son Max is by my side and we are holding onto each other.

Spike was the kid you would want on your crew.

 

I'm hurting big time.

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Oh no. Bob, I am so very sorry. Your family is in our prayers.

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My deepest sorrow and sympathies for you and yours, Mr. Perry. May time and love ease your pain.

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Thanks you guys.

I'm a bit of a weird world right now. My son Max is by my side and we are holding onto each other.

Spike was the kid you would want on your crew.

 

I'm hurting big time.

 

 

So sorry for you Bob, thoughts are with you.

Every parent's worst fear.

 

Too young .... way too young.

 

Craig

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Thanks you guys.

I'm a bit of a weird world right now. My son Max is by my side and we are holding onto each other.

Spike was the kid you would want on your crew.

 

I'm hurting big time.

 

Bob ,

I'm so very sorry for you and your family...

I remember seeing Spike at BBS on your design, I could tell he had a stake in the program, he was like your wingman.

 

God speed Spike and keep watching out for Dad from above.

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My son is a sailor too, we sail together a lot now, I just can't imagine the pain if I lost him. I am so sorry to hear this has happened. Words fail....

 

dash

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Mr. Perry. I cannot imagine. You have my profound and heartfelt sympathy. Fair winds to the young man. We'll have a thought for him and you while out on the water today.

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Thanks you guys.

I'm a bit of a weird world right now. My son Max is by my side and we are holding onto each other.

Spike was the kid you would want on your crew.

 

I'm hurting big time.

 

Bob,

 

There are some things in life that no one should ever experience and a parent burying his child is one of them! Please know that there is a whole big community out there that is sending love and good thoughts to you and your family right now.

 

Spike is now a member of the greatest sailing team ever and will always be 1st to the weather mark

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I just don't what to say.

I would really hope that none of you would fel like I feel right now.

 

I'm sorry to lay this burden on you but the sailing comminity as clsoe to me.

I hurt.

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Bob,

 

I am simply stunned. I feel that there is nothing I could say that could possibly mitigate the pain of such a loss. All I can say is that we ARE all here to listen to you, and to help you however we can.

 

Condolences,

 

Rich (Ajax)

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Oh, Bob, so sorry to hear. Good energies coming your way. Hang in there, and if possible, go sailing. Best, JW

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Bob, I cant imagine the pain you are in right now, and am so very sorry for your loss.

I hope one day the pain will subside and you will be warmed by all the wonderful memories of the 30 great years you were able to have with Spike. You sailed with your son, that is a very great gift that 99% of the people that walk this planet aren't given.

As I now look out over the vast ocean, I say a prayer for Spike and the whole Perry family. Rest in peace, Spike

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I'm not sure what to say. It's been 7 hours.

I thank you all.

 

I hope you never, ever have to go throgh this.

 

For me, I feeel I am part of the greater sailing community. I have ttied hard to be that.

It means a lot to me that you care.

I hurt so bad.

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I'm really sorry about your loss, Bob. Its especially chilling for me because I'm exactly the same age as your son. I don't know what else to say...

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God Bob- Horrible. Don't know how you can deal with it. We're supposed to go first. My thoughts and prayers.

 

MikeR

 

 

I don't want to burden you with this but you are may sailing family.

My 30 year old son, Spike, died last night from a vira; infection.

 

We will have a real Irsh wake for him

 

For now I am in this sureal world.

 

But I know we all loved sailors and Spike was one of those you didn't need to tell what to do. He had grown up sailing from day one and he always knew what to do.

 

I'm going to miss my son.

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Thanks you guys. It means much to me that you care.

Right now I am hurting so much that I hpe you cannot ever imagine.

I'm just thinking about my kid

 

I really hoe that you never feeel; this pain.

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I'm not sure what to say. It's been 7 hours.

I thank you all.

 

I hope you never, ever have to go throgh this.

 

For me, I feeel I am part of the greater sailing community. I have ttied hard to be that.

It means a lot to me that you care.

I hurt so bad.

 

Speaking for the Night Runner family, we all are so sorry to hear about your loss. You have been a big part of our sailing family which makes this loss even more painful. Sail on Spike with fair winds!

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I'm very sorry Bob. My deep sympathies & condolences to you and your family.

 

I really don't know to say in situation like this. :(

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Bob,

 

My deepest condolences to you and your family. My thoughts will be with you.

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I don't want to burden you with this but you are may sailing family.

My 30 year old son, Spike, died last night from a vira; infection.

 

We will have a real Irsh wake for him

 

For now I am in this sureal world.

 

But I know we all loved sailors and Spike was one of those you didn't need to tell what to do. He had grown up sailing from day one and he always knew what to do.

 

I'm going to miss my son.

 

 

You and your family are in my prayers.

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Bob,

 

As a father I can't imagine how painful this is for you.

 

As is true, I'm sure, with most parents who care, I break a little inside each time I hear of the loss of a son or daughter - especially when someone I feel a connection to is involved (I've followed your work for decades).

 

Your journey forward is going to be difficult but I'm sure you know that at some point, along with serious and sad reflection, there will come great joy in your memories, shared experiences with loved ones and the photographs you're already beginning to find new meaning in.

 

Stay strong and bring your pain to places like this as you feel the need. We may not help much but we'll read with care, stay close through the words and offer up what we can for a crew member who's hurting.

 

“Live in the sunshine, swim the sea, drink the wild air…” Ralph Waldo Emerson

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My condolences. As a parent it's our worse fear.

Will pray that the time it takes for this to become bearable,

and believe it or not it will, comes soon for you.

You life wont ever be the same but always hold with you

the thought of how Spike would want you to carry on for yourself

and your family.

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Oh man ! Bob, you have been friend and advisor to so many of us. I doubt there is a more loved and admired figure in this crazy cyber world we all share. Wombat Manor mourns your loss mate. Sad times, sad times indeed.

Condolences and a great big hug from us both.

Andrew and Wendy

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Bob,

While there are no words that can adequately comfort you in this time of grief, know that your friends are there for you to lean upon in the days and weeks ahead. Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved son Spike, and my prayers that you eventually find comfort in the memories of the thirty years that you enjoyed together.

 

Nick

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he'll be sailing, through dreams, through memories, go and walk the beach senor Perry, go sail the sea, he'll be there, with you. tough bullet to bite, let the sailor rest in peace.

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Bob,

 

Sincerest condolences.

 

Have a son and daughter, 34 and 30, and can't begin to imagine what you are feeling.

 

A time for many of us to reflect and be incredibly grateful for all we have and those we hold dear.

 

Sun finally appeared here an hour ago but after hearing this news, I don't find it very warming.

 

Be strong and resolve to deal with this as Spike would want you to.

 

 

Fair tides and a following breeze,

Red

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I don't want to burden you with this but you are may sailing family.

My 30 year old son, Spike, died last night from a vira; infection.

 

We will have a real Irsh wake for him

 

For now I am in this sureal world.

 

But I know we all loved sailors and Spike was one of those you didn't need to tell what to do. He had grown up sailing from day one and he always knew what to do.

 

I'm going to miss my son.

 

Bob so sad to hear, parents are never supposed to watch their children pass

 

Thoughts with you my Friend !

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Dear Bob,

 

I can barely imagine how much you must be hurting. Please know that we are all grieving with you. There will always be a place in our hearts for Spike and the Perry family.

 

Sincerely,

Paul

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Bob,

 

My deepest condolences for you and your family in this very trying point in your lives. I can't begin to express the sadness that I feel for you at this moment. May you in time feel peace. Fair winds and following seas spike.

 

Martin.

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Bob,

You and Spike, and the rest of your family will be in our prayers. We too are very sorry to hear about Spike.

 

I too have lost a child. I can tell you that it will get "better." It will never go away, and you don't want it to, but it will get better, and some of the hurt will go away.

 

Here's to Spike, may we remember him forever..

 

Take care of yourself and your family, and let us know how we can help...all of us would love to be able to anything, something, should you ask.

 

Sincerely,

Pete

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Bob

 

I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through.

Deepest sympathies from Patti and I.

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As a parent, I cannot imagine the pain you must feel. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

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Not a living soul can take your pain from you, but your family can remind you what a gift it was to have had his love for 30 years. I hope you can find some solace with their company and eventually, through their help, your pain will ease.

 

We would take on any part of your pain if we could, but alas we can only hope to see it eventually fade to a loving memory of having been gifted with a great kid.

 

So I say, look to the heavens and curse the Gods with all your might; no loving God would hold it against you. Cry for your pain, cry for your families pain, cry for having been robbed of his company and when you can cry no more you will begin to rebuild his presence through memories and love.

 

Until that day, we can only look on and hope that we can help in some small way.

 

 

Condolences.

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I cannot imagine what you must be going through, probably many times worse than I can imagine.

 

My condolences and prayers go out to you and your family, and I wish you all the best in coping with what has happened.

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Bob -

 

I am so sorry to hear this terrible news. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Condolences, and fair winds to Spike.

 

Michael Hennessy

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when it comes,

it's like a flower unfolding. . .

when it goes,

it's like thunder rolling. . .

 

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family, Mr. Perry.

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While nothing can remedy the pain I can only imagine you are feeling today, celebrating a great life with an Irish wake sounds like a great tribute.

 

May the road rise up to meet you,

May the wind be ever at your back

May the sun shine warm upon your face

And the rain fall softly on your fields

And until we meet again, May God hold

you in the hollow of his hand

 

Fair winds, Spike.

 

Patrick Ryan Wilson

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The vodak has worn off and my oldest son Max has hidden the bottle.

I'm alert not but I wish I were not.

 

Your feelings mean a lot to me.

Thanks

 

Spike would always have been there to grab your line.

And he knew what to do with it.

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We're crying here with you. You can try switching over to beer if the vodka's been taken away.

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It is so easy for me to talk about getting back up and getting on with life.

 

An injury is one thing but death is final (in the physical sense).

 

I don't even know what I would do or say if my son passed.

 

Bob, There is tomorrow, you know your son want's you to live on. Grieve and look for brighter days ahead. :wub:

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When I read your first post this morning, it brought tears to my eyes. Such a difficult loss, it left me thinking about where he is.

 

So this:

 

 

THE VOYAGE

Whichever way the wind doth blow,

Some heart is glad to have it so;

Then blow it east or blow it west,

The wind that blows, that wind is best.

 

My little craft sails not alone:

A thousand fleets from every zone

Are out upon a thousand seas;

And what for me were favoring breeze

Might dash another, with the shock

Of doom, upon some hidden rock.

 

And so I do not dare to pray

For winds to waft me on my way,

But leave it to a Higher Will

To stay or speed me; trusting still

That all is well, and sure that He

Who launched my bark will sail with me

Through storm and calm, and will not fail,

Whatever breezes may prevail,

To land me, every peril past,

Within his sheltering haven at last.

 

Then, whatsoever wind doth blow,

My heart is glad to have it so;

And blow it east or blow it west,

The wind that blows, that wind is best.

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I can't think of anything to say that doesn't risk sounding trite or contrived, and even as an "adopted" father I can't begin to imagine the pain you and your family are going through..

 

You have mine and Ms. Poda's deepest condolences to you and your family, and to anyone else who's lives were undoubtedly blessed by your son.

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My deepest condolences Bob. Having experienced a sudden, unexpected loss myself when my wife died 5 years ago (at 37)I know some of the pain/anger/confusion you're dealing with.

 

Let time do it's job taking the edge off things, meanwhile stay healthy and know that your son wouldn't want to be the cause of pain. Remember him well by living well and resist the urge to smack the well-meaning that tell you "life is for the living" no matter how much a pithy phrase can grind at times such as these. Especially when somebody trots out the "God doesn't give you burdens you cannot bear..." bit - they are TRYING to be comforting, no matter how insensibly maddening it sounds now.

 

We love you, man. Stay strong for the rest of the family.

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