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10 minutes ago, Cristoforo said:

This is all good advice with the exception being Gomer should contract cancer of the nutsack which will not kill him, but make him a eunuch. 
 

That's better.

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3 hours ago, LB 15 said:

Bullshit. Don't get mad, get even. Oh and get a dream catcher. If you spay them with adhesive you can take out a lot of flies.

You have to remember to take it off your face before trying to drink.

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10 hours ago, zenmasterfred said:

The only thing anger does is attract more anger, or as attributed to Buddha, Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.  Don't let Gomer's BS drive you life in any way and I second the recommendation to talk to an abuse professional, moving on from this kind of treatment and learning it isn't or wasn't your fault is not easy and you need to be sure not to ever get into another abusive relationship.  The sad reality is they often don't end well.  Good on ya for getting the heck away.

I'm happy that I spoke up about it and I'm able to let it go. He can finish the adventure on his own without using my voice or self in them. Then he can carry on his jolly way. I feel really bad for everyone who loved watching the videos. Everyone has been incredible from the get-go. I wish things were different. It's not my fault. I'll continue to do what makes me happy (that's the best part) I was going to share the rest of the trip from the footage I have and decided against that. It does suck for everyone that was invested in the journey but hopefully he'll finish them. He can also start over like I'm doing and fully edit me out of the videos or just begin new footage with the subscribers he already has. (That would be his most lucrative move and would be my choice if I were in his shoes lol. Kinda leave the past behind and move forward from his mistakes.) Wish him well. 

But holy macaroni I am getting ready to have a beautiful time with some really beautiful people while I learn to sail. I couldn't be happier.  Spoke my peace and did what was right. I'm surrounded by family and moving forward. I'll keep smiling. And yall are awesome!

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1 hour ago, Squeaky said:

I'm happy that I spoke up about it and I'm able to let it go. He can finish the adventure on his own without using my voice or self in them. Then he can carry on his jolly way. I feel really bad for everyone who loved watching the videos. Everyone has been incredible from the get-go. I wish things were different. It's not my fault. I'll continue to do what makes me happy (that's the best part) I was going to share the rest of the trip from the footage I have and decided against that. It does suck for everyone that was invested in the journey but hopefully he'll finish them. He can also start over like I'm doing and fully edit me out of the videos or just begin new footage with the subscribers he already has. (That would be his most lucrative move and would be my choice if I were in his shoes lol. Kinda leave the past behind and move forward from his mistakes.) Wish him well. 

But holy macaroni I am getting ready to have a beautiful time with some really beautiful people while I learn to sail. I couldn't be happier.  Spoke my peace and did what was right. I'm surrounded by family and moving forward. I'll keep smiling. And yall are awesome!

How much income was he actually earning each month from YouTube? 

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2 hours ago, Squeaky said:

It's not really my place to say. He was smart about it.

Does that mean you don't know or just don't want to say?

Just curious what 25,000 subscribers can generate: <$100/month, >$500/month, more.

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 25k doesn't get you much income unless you are very clever about using and selling them to advertisers.  Youtube income is based on video views and adsense impressions, and you really need millions of those to make a good living.  But Youtube/Facebook/Pinterest/Instagram views, plus sales of contacts, plus affiliate pages, plus collaborations, plus patreon, and all of a sudden you have six figures coming in from just 25k YT subs.

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34 minutes ago, MR.CLEAN said:

 25k doesn't get you much income unless you are very clever about using and selling them to advertisers.  Youtube income is based on video views and adsense impressions, and you really need millions of those to make a good living.  But Youtube/Facebook/Pinterest/Instagram views, plus sales of contacts, plus affiliate pages, plus collaborations, plus patreon, and all of a sudden you have six figures coming in from just 25k YT subs.

Digital pimp?

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I think I found the 2 best comments in the last YT video.

 

"I had it figured it would be the boat that broke up...."

"I was always worried you guys would have kids..."

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4 hours ago, FixinGit said:

Digital pimp?

That's why I said no to 300. He's a smart guy. I'm an intelligent lady. I felt it was just another way for him to have control. I'm happy with my decision to say no because now I can enjoy myself and the rest of my life! Plus if i can find a little sailboat after i get back from the Bahamas , I've talked one of my girlfriends into hopping on the boat with me! It will be GOLD. Shes just as goofy as I am!! The ICW is so much fun and I want to eventually take the great loop! Looks like that will be a 2021 adventure! I'm going to do whatever I want and have a blast while doing it. 

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As I write you've got 67 up votes, on just 49 posts... You've got to be the first person on SA with more likes than posts! It goes to show the esteem in which you're held.

Looking forward to your next adventure...

 

 

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I cant figure it out!! One min the vids are up next min they are all set to private. I've sent one email to youtube and I've spoken with a lawyer.... other than that I have no clue what is causing the 925vids to be set to private. Maybe other people are sending emails to youtube as well. I have no idea. All I know is that I dont like that channel or the creator lol. It would be nice to know what's happening with the channel though. Is anyone a patreon on here? Lol

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Hey Gomer, if you are reading this (and if you have any smarts you should be), just keep in mind there are a lot of anarchists who are very smart (more smart than you) , have cutting edge IT and easily provoked into protecting victims. 

Squeaky,  a 3k payoff wouldn't have been enough either.  For me 30k wouldn't have been enough.  It's a small price to give up the moolah for the peace of mind and life integrity.   Said as an 54 year old fart, who has left money on the table on more than ten occasions and never regretted in the decades after. 

Go make the world yours!

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25 minutes ago, dfw_sailor said:

Go make the world yours!

I mitte notte usse that exacte wordeng, butte yeah..........               :)

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Looke what happend to Toney..............                              :)

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26 minutes ago, dfw_sailor said:

Hey Gomer, if you are reading this (and if you have any smarts you should be), just keep in mind there are a lot of anarchists who are very smart (more smart than you) , have cutting edge IT and easily provoked into protecting victims. 

Squeaky,  a 3k payoff wouldn't have been enough either.  For me 30k wouldn't have been enough.  It's a small price to give up the moolah for the peace of mind and life integrity.   Said as an 54 year old fart, who has left money on the table on more than ten occasions and never regretted in the decades after. 

Go make the world yours!

This. If the $300 was a fair offer, it would have been equally fair in reverse. He wouldn't take the deal he was offering, no more needs to be said on that score.

I too have just walked away despite promises of riches if only I stuck it out. In retrospect I don't regret a single one of those decisions. Except maybe one where I should have seen the writing on the wall earlier but - it was a good learning experience.

Off sailing shortly. Enjoy.

FKT

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52 minutes ago, Fah Kiew Tu said:

I too have just walked away despite promises of riches if only I stuck it out. 

FKT

Did he insist you swallow? 

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1 hour ago, Cristoforo said:
2 hours ago, Fah Kiew Tu said:

I too have just walked away despite promises of riches if only I stuck it out. 

FKT

Did he insist you swallow? 

No, he's the one sticking it out. Pay attention.

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3 hours ago, Squeaky said:

I cant figure it out!! One min the vids are up next min they are all set to private. I've sent one email to youtube and I've spoken with a lawyer.... other than that I have no clue what is causing the 925vids to be set to private. Maybe other people are sending emails to youtube as well. I have no idea. All I know is that I dont like that channel or the creator lol. It would be nice to know what's happening with the channel though. Is anyone a patreon on here? Lol

I am.  Best Dollar a month I've ever spent.  PM me if you want more info.

From today:

 

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1 hour ago, Looper said:

I am.  Best Dollar a month I've ever spent.  PM me if you want more info.

From today:

 

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Lol. Good for him! Y'all have no idea how happy it would make me to see that catamaran come back to life. It's an awesome little boat! Lots of love went into working on that thing! I think he made a great decision buying it and I hope he makes it into whatever his dreams throw his way!! I think his only fuck up will be putting his hands on and hurting me. I hope he learns a lesson on how to treat his next partner from all of this. At least hes doing one thing right and that's letting others help him to learn. Gotta keep moving forward!! 

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3 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

Lol. Good for him! Y'all have no idea how happy it would make me to see that catamaran come back to life. It's an awesome little boat! Lots of love went into working on that thing! I think he made a great decision buying it and I hope he makes it into whatever his dreams throw his way!! I think his only fuck up will be putting his hands on and hurting me. I hope he learns a lesson on how to treat his next partner from all of this. At least hes doing one thing right and that's letting others help him to learn. Gotta keep moving forward!! 

I also think he should take down all of the videos with me in them it's just sad and doesn't look good for either of us. Theres my 2 cents lol. YALL ARE AWESOME!

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11 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

I also think he should take down all of the videos with me in them it's just sad and doesn't look good for either of us. Theres my 2 cents lol. YALL ARE AWESOME!

well...... that would be all but the break up one..... and i agree.

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7 hours ago, Squeaky said:

I think his only fuck up will be putting his hands on and hurting me. I hope he learns a lesson on how to treat his next partner from all of this. 

That is a BIG deal.  If he did you should press charges.  If you do not he WILL do it to the next person.  Even if he does not get convicted there will be a record of those charges WHEN he does it in the future and maybe that judge will see a pattern.  

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2 hours ago, rockb said:
10 hours ago, Squeaky said:

I think his only fuck up will be putting his hands on and hurting me. I hope he learns a lesson on how to treat his next partner from all of this. 

That is a BIG deal.  If he did you should press charges.  If you do not he WILL do it to the next person.  Even if he does not get convicted there will be a record of those charges WHEN he does it in the future and maybe that judge will see a pattern.  

In general, I'm against getting the law involved, but in this specific case I think you're right. A person who assaults (or commits assault and battery) on a partner will almost certainly do it again, and our society tends to just shake fingers and say "now now, play nice" to them until they end up seriously hurting or killing someone. Getting on record will definitely stop it sooner.

- DSK

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3 hours ago, rockb said:

That is a BIG deal.  If he did you should press charges.  If you do not he WILL do it to the next person.  Even if he does not get convicted there will be a record of those charges WHEN he does it in the future and maybe that judge will see a pattern.  

I agree! Do it now! It won't bode well for you if you wait 20 years and finally screw up your courage after he's declared for the Presidency.

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23 minutes ago, Willin' said:

I agree! Do it now! It won't bode well for you if you wait 20 years and finally screw up your courage after he's declared for the Presidency.

its only going to get worse for the next girl.

 

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3 hours ago, Steam Flyer said:

I'm against getting the law involved, but in this specific case I think you're right

Accusing someone of something like this is pretty serious stuff. If you can't prove it to the police or the Court of law, you shouldn't do it.

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7 minutes ago, chuso007 said:

If you can't prove it to the police or the Court of law, you shouldn't do it.

people shouldn't tell others what happened to them?  That's a fucked up view. Do you blame all victims, or just female ones?

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You  should go to the police and press charges, and let Justice take care of it. False accusations are all to frequent and can destroy an innocent's life. Gender is irrelevant, it goes either way.

Maybe we should burn him in the stake first and then call the police. That's not fucked up at all.

 

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25 minutes ago, chuso007 said:

You  should go to the police and press charges, and let Justice take care of it. False accusations are all to frequent and can destroy an innocent's life.

When you say someone made false accusations, you are calling them a liar. If they are not lying, you have defamed them.  

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Hy baby, $300 and I can use your image for life? Sounds like the deal a porn photog would offer an innocent or not so innocent subject. With those goofy oversize aviator shades and his constant hustle patter, I wouldn't be surprised. Real estate, wedding photographer? Really?

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2 hours ago, chuso007 said:

You  should go to the police and press charges, and let Justice take care of it. False accusations are all to frequent and can destroy an innocent's life. Gender is irrelevant, it goes either way.

Maybe we should burn him in the stake first and then call the police. That's not fucked up at all.

 

This is one reason why Mr Clean is not seen on TV sitting next to Harvey Weinstein. 
Squeaky has libeled  Gomer in a public domain.  If she cannot prove it, she definitely  will never see that $300 and Gomer will get a nice art collection.   Chuso only made a general statement

 

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1 hour ago, MR.CLEAN said:

When you say someone made false accusations

Did I say such thing? You have some problems with reality Clean,  I don't have any reason to think or say Squeaky is lying. I said that before acussing someone publicly of something so serious you should go to the police first. 

If you do so, not only you are protecting other future (or past) victims, you are also doing the right thing.

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Just now, chuso007 said:

Did I say such thing? You have some problems with reality Clean,  I don't have any reason to think or say Squeaky is lying. I said that before acussing someone publicly of something so serious you should go to the police first. 

If you do so, not only you are protecting other future (or past) victims, you are also doing the right thing.

to say the thing, remove the avatar first. It doest get along with my reading. 

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I'm not going to court.  I know I should but I've already put 4 years bbn into this. I think just having it be known and if I can get the channel to take out every video I'm in that would be perfect. I have 3 witnesses to his abuse. Could easily take him to court. I dont think I can get in trouble for anything here. All I've done is tell the truth lmao.. 

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1 minute ago, Squeaky said:

I'm not going to court.  I know I should but I've already put 4 years bbn into this. I think just having it be known and if I can get the channel to take out every video I'm in that would be perfect. I have 3 witnesses to his abuse. Could easily take him to court. I dont think I can get in trouble for anything here. All I've done is tell the truth lmao.. 

Good  for you and I wish you the best. I'm really sorry that you went through something like that.

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4 minutes ago, troll99 said:

remove the avatar first. It doest get along with my reading. 

I've been waiting for the damned flag to fall down for 15 years...

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2 minutes ago, chuso007 said:

Good  for you and I wish you the best. I'm really sorry that you went through something like that.

It wasn't much fun that's for sure hahahah! N thanks! I hope something good comes from this. So far I have a blurry face so yay!!! Now If I can get him to cut my voice out of it. Everyone should love to watch trevor on a boat. He'll have a new chick in no time. 

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Lmao so I just looked at the 925 les dudes getting a shit ton of views and comments from this. Hes totally milking it for all that's left.  And I'm sorry but he is not being honest about this shit. I want the stupid channel taken down. Fuck him. I tried being nice but it's just not right! Hes an abusive piece of crap who doesn't deserve the kindness from unknowing strangers stroking his ego!! Looks like I have to send a shit ton of emails to youtube today! Wooohoo! 

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15 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

He'll have a new chick in no time. 

Thast kinda what we our tryeng to preventte................                           :)

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6 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

Lmao so I just looked at the 925 les dudes getting a shit ton of views and comments from this. Hes totally milking it for all that's left.  And I'm sorry but he is not being honest about this shit. I want the stupid channel taken down. Fuck him. I tried being nice but it's just not right! Hes an abusive piece of crap who doesn't deserve the kindness from unknowing strangers stroking his ego!! Looks like I have to send a shit ton of emails to youtube today! Wooohoo! 

Dont forget to copy us! 

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16 hours ago, basketcase said:

well...... that would be all but the break up one..... and i agree.

I was giggling a bunch when that was the only one left! Then it crushed my heart when all the videos popped back up. Keep in mind I edited and helped to shoot half of the footage. So I'm trashing my own work here as well! Couldn't be happier about it! I definitely want every video with me gone! I'll have my first video ready soon!!! Should be funny!

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26 minutes ago, Snaggletooth said:

Thast kinda what we our tryeng to preventte................                           :)

True true. Lol gosh I hope she runs far away!

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4 minutes ago, Squeaky said:
32 minutes ago, Snaggletooth said:

Thast kinda what we our tryeng to preventte................                           :)

True true. Lol gosh I hope she runs far away!

We alle do, so throuh edgucation we cane help shrinke Gomeres appealle and trolleng ponde.............                           :)

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33 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

I was giggling a bunch when that was the only one left! Then it crushed my heart when all the videos popped back up. Keep in mind I edited and helped to shoot half of the footage. So I'm trashing my own work here as well! Couldn't be happier about it! I definitely want every video with me gone! I'll have my first video ready soon!!! Should be funny!

Im surprised he has to blur your face but is allowed to use your voice.  You have a wonderfully recognizable and distinct, soothing voice. Especially when you are singing  It reminds me of Adele's. Nearly the same but with a folksy twang.    Everyone knows its you.  Tell YouTube Gomer needs to mute whenever you are speaking or singing or you will sue. As a bargaining chip tell him he can keep your  hucklechuck giggles. But hold out on that until the end.  

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4 hours ago, chuso007 said:

Accusing someone of something like this is pretty serious stuff. If you can't prove it to the police or the Court of law, you shouldn't do it.

Lol hes done it to me soo many times. I've got 3 solid witnesses who love me very much. N plenty of folks have been around for the verbal abuse.

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52 minutes ago, Cristoforo said:

Im surprised he has to blur your face but is allowed to use your voice.  You have a wonderfully recognizable and distinct, soothing voice. Especially when you are singing  It reminds me of Adele's. Nearly the same but with a folksy twang.    Everyone knows its you.  Tell YouTube Gomer needs to mute whenever you are speaking or singing or you will sue. As a bargaining chip tell him he can keep your  hucklechuck giggles. But hold out on that until the end.  

Hahahahahaha you think I sound like Adele!!! That's the best thing I've heard all day hahahah!! Why thank you, kind sir! Lol. I think I should email about the voice part. Everyone clearly knows its me!!! I'm not sure exactly what I would say to youtube.  I'll have to research a little more on the youtube privacy policy because I'm pretty sure you are right. I dont want him using any of me ever again. 

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5 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

Lol hes done it to me soo many times. I've got 3 solid witnesses who love me very much. N plenty of folks have been around for the verbal abuse.

and plenty of video evidence for the verbal abuse. fucker just couldn't let go of the fucking french press.

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8 minutes ago, basketcase said:

and plenty of video evidence for the verbal abuse. fucker just couldn't let go of the fucking french press.

I’m pretty sure verbal abuse is not a jail-able offense. I’ve said ‘who the fuck took the tv changer!’ about 10,000 times when it was under my ass the whole time 

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12 minutes ago, basketcase said:

and plenty of video evidence for the verbal abuse. fucker just couldn't let go of the fucking french press.

Hahahahah that soap was fucking soapy! Hahahah slippery stuff! Hahahah gosh I felt so bad about that but, deep down theres a lot of laughter there

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14 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

Hahahahahaha you think I sound like Adele!!! That's the best thing I've heard all day hahahah!! Why thank you, kind sir! Lol. I think I should email about the voice part. Everyone clearly knows its me!!! I'm not sure exactly what I would say to youtube.  I'll have to research a little more on the youtube privacy policy because I'm pretty sure you are right. I dont want him using any of me ever again. 

Adele,,,errr I mean Squeaks...don’t read anything. You tell them to take off your voice or you are suing their (and Gomer’s)  ass. Let them read their rules to you. 
 

(this strategy was taken from the book ‘Art of the Deal’) 

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3 minutes ago, Cristoforo said:

I’m pretty sure verbal abuse is not a jail-able offense. I’ve said ‘who the fuck took the tv changer!’ about 10,000 times when it was under my ass the whole time 

Hahahaha I have no idea! I'm not trying to take his ass to jail tho. Just wanna be out of his life forever. Nope dont wanna be on that channel anymore!

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4 minutes ago, Cristoforo said:

Adele,,,errr I mean Squeaks...don’t read anything. You tell them to take off your voice or you are suing their (and Gomer’s)  ass. Let them read their rules to you. 
 

(this strategy was taken from the book ‘Art of the Deal’) 

Hahahah. Nice book! Shit if that'll work I'll do that! 

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1 hour ago, Cristoforo said:

I’m pretty sure verbal abuse is not a jail-able offense. I’ve said ‘who the fuck took the tv changer!’ about 10,000 times when it was under my ass the whole time 

true, but over the course of all of the videos there is a definite darkening of his attitude towards our squeeks.

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1 hour ago, basketcase said:

true, but over the course of all of the videos there is a definite darkening of his attitude towards our squeeks.

 

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32 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

For the most part we got along. Trust me I'm not perfect and I know I probably got on his nerves at times. We were together 24/7 for 4 years and I have A LOT of energy. We did share a TON of beautiful moments together and I will miss them. I'll miss the dude I first met but after years of being talked down to just the thought of his face makes me feel uneasy! Lol. In his eyes everything I did was wrong. Like I would wake up every morning and just pray that he woke up in a good mood. (I would sometimes wake him up when I woke up in the morning. We lived in a studio style condo for about 2 years 100% open floorplan lol it sucked. the floors would squeak. I would have to wake up and like tiptoe to use the bathroom then I would have to sit on the couch and not move a muscle for like 2 hrs. If I would accidentally wake him up the whole day would be shitty and I would get called names the all day) He would kick me out at least once a month lol. I lived out of my backpack for 4 years (granted i did not pay rent there ((i would have if he would have given me a key. But after 4 years we never made it to that step)) but i did buy food and other things. I did all of the cleaning. Made him breakfast lunch and dinner every day. Helped with everything he needed. I worked my ass off for that man. Lmao I was basically his bitch. Never a partner. He would break up with me before my birthday and holidays. I remember one year for his birthday I went all out! Gifts cake and ice cream. The whole deal. Anyways I was on the way to his house and we had gotten into an argument about something stupid. I get to his house and let him know I'm there. This jerk leaves out the back door. Doesn't tell me he left. I'm standing outside his door for like 40 minutes crying my eyes out because I'm so hurt and confused. He finally answers and makes me feel like it was my fault he left!! Lmao. Guys a real treat ya know. Never even picked me flowers or ya know did something sweet for me lol. Hey at least now I know my red flags!!! My next relationship will be much better! Feels good to get this off my mind lol thanks for listening!

Rough stuff. My stepfather was like that. Glad you didn’t get trapped.

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On 9/29/2020 at 8:26 AM, charisma94 said:

As I write you've got 67 up votes, on just 49 posts... You've got to be the first person on SA with more likes than posts! It goes to show the esteem in which you're held.

Looking forward to your next adventure...

 

 

Judging by way these crusty old blokes reacted to, & continue to obsess over, a 6/10 making French Toast in a bikini. I am not the least bit surprised by the ratio. 

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23 minutes ago, Raz'r said:

Rough stuff. My stepfather was like that. Glad you didn’t get trapped.

I was for a little bit. I went back at least 50 times lmao. I'm def not a perfect person. I was late places and when we first met I would party with my friends a bunch and paint during concerts. But he said he didnt like it so I stopped hanging out with my friends and painting. Pretty much did whatever he wanted after that. Lol. Jesus it feels so much better to be on my own doing whatever the heck I want! Yahoo!

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37 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

I was for a little bit. I went back at least 50 times lmao. I'm def not a perfect person. I was late places and when we first met I would party with my friends a bunch and paint during concerts. But he said he didnt like it so I stopped hanging out with my friends and painting. Pretty much did whatever he wanted after that. Lol. Jesus it feels so much better to be on my own doing whatever the heck I want! Yahoo!

Another 2 signs of a person to get away from.

Someone who tries to separate you from your friends & relatives (isolation) and someone who undermines your confidence & abilities to get you subservient.

Couple of the other things you've written aside from physical violence makes me think you were dealing with a nasty control freak and you're lucky you got away. They easily turn into violent stalkers.

Dunno if getting a restraining order would be more provocation than protection but it's worth considering. Especially if things start to go badly for him as it can easily become all your fault for leaving.

If he doesn't know where you are now - keep it that way.

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56 minutes ago, Fah Kiew Tu said:

Another 2 signs of a person to get away from.

Someone who tries to separate you from your friends & relatives (isolation) and someone who undermines your confidence & abilities to get you subservient.

Couple of the other things you've written aside from physical violence makes me think you were dealing with a nasty control freak and you're lucky you got away. They easily turn into violent stalkers.

Dunno if getting a restraining order would be more provocation than protection but it's worth considering. Especially if things start to go badly for him as it can easily become all your fault for leaving.

If he doesn't know where you are now - keep it that way.

FKT

Nah. I dont think I need a restraining order. Hes not that type of person. Hes really not a bad dude. He's nice for the most part. I wouldnt say he would go out of his way for anyone. He just fucked up.  He should have treated me better. He shouldn't have put his hands on me and he shouldn't have talked so nasty to me all the time. He should have been a better person/friend to me. I was good to him.

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7 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

Nah. I dont think I need a restraining order. Hes not that type of person. Hes really not a bad dude. He's nice for the most part. I wouldnt say he would go out of his way for anyone. He just fucked up.  He should have treated me better. He shouldn't have put his hands on me and he shouldn't have talked so nasty to me all the time. He should have been a better person/friend to me. I was good to him.

I don't think you are paying attention here, he is not okay and from what you say is a bad dude and a classic abuser.  Yes, he fucked up and if he has any opportunity it will not go well.  These situations usually end up badly and often with the abused dead.  Don't make excuses for him or for his bad behavior.  This is serious shit and you exhibit the classic symptoms of someone who has been mentally abused and physically abused.  HE IS THAT TYPE OF PERSON if you are being straight with us.  Classic abuser is nice until they aren't and then apologetic, oh I'm so sorry, I'll never do that again until the next time.  If not you then his next victim.  And you definitely do not want him to know where you are!

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1 hour ago, zenmasterfred said:

This is serious shit and you exhibit the classic symptoms of someone who has been mentally abused and physically abused.  HE IS THAT TYPE OF PERSON if you are being straight with us.  Classic abuser is nice until they aren't and then apologetic, oh I'm so sorry, I'll never do that again until the next time.  If not you then his next victim.  And you definitely do not want him to know where you are!

This. Abuser is nice mostly when they're getting their own way. Nasty when not. Insist on obedience and control.

From what you've said:

Physically abusive.

Verbally abusive.

Controlling - tries to separate you from friends and relatives.

Controlling - tries to belittle your abilities & destroy self-confidence.

How was he with money? Did he control all the spending or did you have your own? Did you have to ask before buying stuff?

Anyway if you're done then he doesn't need to know where you are - and shouldn't.

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1 hour ago, zenmasterfred said:

This is serious shit and you exhibit the classic symptoms of someone who has been mentally abused and physically abused.

@Squeaky

I didn't want to put it so bluntly, but fred is right.

I don't think it's your responsibility to do anything about him. That seems like victim blaming.

But clearly you have a way to go with regards to healing. Starts with the selfdegrading name you chose here...

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Squeaks, several of the post here, starting with yours, describe classic spousal abuse.

Spouse abuse is all about power and control.  It starts slowly with denigrating comments with the purpose of destroying the self esteem of the victim.  Escalation is steady and often ultimately ends up with physical abuse to ensure the victim is terrorized into complete submission.  

The abuse often follows a pattern of verbal abuse, emotional abuse and then violence. Afterward there is feigned remorse from the abuser, apologies, a promise that it won't happen again, and a period of getting along and having pleasurable experiences.  Then the verbal and emotional abuse slowly escalates and ends up in more violent behavior.  This pattern repeats itself over and over.  As time goes on, the psychological effect of the abuse causes changes in the mind of the victim, and erodes their self esteem to the point that they become completely submissive to the never ending demands of the abuser. The victim often accepts the responsibility for the abuse, thinking if only they can do better the abuse will stop.  

As you know, the only way to break the cycle is to leave.  Of course the abuser often issues threats and warning as to what will happen if the victim leaves.

Thank goodness in your case, you had the insight to know what was happening and the strength to do the right thing.  Good for you.

You have a great attitude about the whole thing.  But you also have emotional scars that will live on in your mind.  Please, please see a counselor to help you deal with these issues.  There are people out there specifically trained to deal with the kinds of issues you have experienced.  If money is a problem, there are many resources that offer counseling on a sliding scale basis so that you will only pay what you can afford.  

Emotional and physical trauma have a deep and lasting effect on the mind.  PTSD is very common in abuse cases.  There is no need to deal with these issues alone,  Some of the effects don't manifest themselves until much later.   

You are obviously a strong woman with a good amount of awareness and insight as to what happened to you.  Seeing a trained professional will help you utilize your inner resources and help you effect a much quicker recovery from this experience than just toughing it out alone. 

Like every human being, you deserve to be treated with respect.  You deserve to be happy.  You deserve a partner in life that is willing to treat you with love and respect, a partner that work with you to achieve a happy life together. 

You have taken the first and most important part of your recovery, you left.  That took a lot of courage.  Now it would be of great benefit to see a counselor to help you deal with the effects of the abuse and give you a good start on the road to recovery and ultimately true happiness.  

Congratulations on your liberation and I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors.

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7 hours ago, SCANAS said:

Judging by way these crusty old blokes reacted to, & continue to obsess over, a 6/10 making French Toast in a bikini. I am not the least bit surprised by the ratio. 

She may have been a 6 overall, but her ass was a 9.2. 

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12 hours ago, Cristoforo said:

I’m pretty sure verbal abuse is not a jail-able offense. I’ve said ‘who the fuck took the tv changer!’ about 10,000 times when it was under my ass the whole time 

Could you narrow it down a bit more? You're all ass

- DSK

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How often, after he put hands on you, did he say, 'look what you made me do.'  ?

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18 hours ago, Cristoforo said:


Squeaky has libeled  Gomer in a public domain.

And now you have likely defamed her as well.  

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18 hours ago, chuso007 said:

 I said that before acussing someone publicly of something so serious you should go to the police first. 

You seem to have a lot of faith in police.  i thought you were a lawyer...

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6 minutes ago, MR.CLEAN said:

And now you have likely defamed her as well.  

Uh Oh! Thank God i didn't call her a grifter!

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2 hours ago, MR.CLEAN said:

And now you have likely defamed her as well.  

I havent said anything that wasn't the truth? If anything hes the one still hurting me. Half of the subscribers think I was only in it for the money and that they are glad I'm gone. I guarantee if he told the truth people wouldnt be saying that. All I've done is defend myself against being used. 

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2 hours ago, MR.CLEAN said:

You seem to have a lot of faith in police.  i thought you were a lawyer...

Let me know if I'm doing something wrong here. Lol. I dont want the truth leading me to trouble in court. 

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We've gotten to a place where internet fun turns into real-world. I submit that Squeaks has said her peace about the relationship, and repeatedly has said that she isn't going to press charges. The group has expressed sympathy and has clearly warned her about risks. Maybe it's better for her not to re-hash it anymore. I'm not a lawyer, but I'd think that if she isn't going to go to the authorities, then she doesn't need to be coaxed into writing more about alleged abuse to a bunch of old avatars on the internet. She ought to privately seek counseling at this point. Egging her on to put more in writing could potentially be doing her a disservice.

Sorry to talk in the 3rd person about you, Squeaky. I really enjoyed the early part of the series, when you guys were the crazy, enthusiastic noobs taking off in a crappy boat. Wife and I looked forward to each episode, as you were in our home territory. Now we know about the New Years' festivities in Oriental, thanks to you - looked like great fun.  So on a less serious note, what was the funniest or craziest part of your journey?

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7 hours ago, Ed Lada said:

Squeaks, several of the post here, starting with yours, describe classic spousal abuse.

Spouse abuse is all about power and control.  It starts slowly with denigrating comments with the purpose of destroying the self esteem of the victim.  Escalation is steady and often ultimately ends up with physical abuse to ensure the victim is terrorized into complete submission.  

The abuse often follows a pattern of verbal abuse, emotional abuse and then violence. Afterward there is feigned remorse from the abuser, apologies, a promise that it won't happen again, and a period of getting along and having pleasurable experiences.  Then the verbal and emotional abuse slowly escalates and ends up in more violent behavior.  This pattern repeats itself over and over.  As time goes on, the psychological effect of the abuse causes changes in the mind of the victim, and erodes their self esteem to the point that they become completely submissive to the never ending demands of the abuser. The victim often accepts the responsibility for the abuse, thinking if only they can do better the abuse will stop.  

As you know, the only way to break the cycle is to leave.  Of course the abuser often issues threats and warning as to what will happen if the victim leaves.

Thank goodness in your case, you had the insight to know what was happening and the strength to do the right thing.  Good for you.

You have a great attitude about the whole thing.  But you also have emotional scars that will live on in your mind.  Please, please see a counselor to help you deal with these issues.  There are people out there specifically trained to deal with the kinds of issues you have experienced.  If money is a problem, there are many resources that offer counseling on a sliding scale basis so that you will only pay what you can afford.  

Emotional and physical trauma have a deep and lasting effect on the mind.  PTSD is very common in abuse cases.  There is no need to deal with these issues alone,  Some of the effects don't manifest themselves until much later.   

You are obviously a strong woman with a good amount of awareness and insight as to what happened to you.  Seeing a trained professional will help you utilize your inner resources and help you effect a much quicker recovery from this experience than just toughing it out alone. 

Like every human being, you deserve to be treated with respect.  You deserve to be happy.  You deserve a partner in life that is willing to treat you with love and respect, a partner that work with you to achieve a happy life together. 

You have taken the first and most important part of your recovery, you left.  That took a lot of courage.  Now it would be of great benefit to see a counselor to help you deal with the effects of the abuse and give you a good start on the road to recovery and ultimately true happiness.  

Congratulations on your liberation and I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors.

Everything you just said was perfect. I know that I'll be ok. Oh my gosh, yes. This entire relationship has been an eye opening one. It's sad because he was my best friend. Lmao. It's even more sad that I would consider that to be a best friend. Getting the truth out there was one of my biggest things. It hurt so much just sitting there helpless about it all. Also felt a little disrespected when I asked him not to post me in the videos. Then he has to blur my face. So that's embarrassing and people think I'm petty and money hungry. All of this sucks for me lol. And I already went through enough. 

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22 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

Everything you just said was perfect. 

Plesae tacke Eds suggestione seriesley.                           :)

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11 hours ago, mathystuff said:

But clearly you have a way to go with regards to healing. Starts with the selfdegrading name you chose here...

it would appear that you clearly haven't been around since the beginning of this thread.  Squeaky was the nick name SA posters gave to her.

I assume when she made her first post here, she used that name so people here would know who it was - although a lot of people on here, myself included, thought it was a sock puppet in her first few posts.

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9 minutes ago, 12 metre said:

a lot of people on here, myself included, thought it was a sock puppet in her first few posts.

Some still do.

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22 minutes ago, 12 metre said:

it would appear that you clearly haven't been around since the beginning of this thread.  Squeaky was the nick name SA posters gave to her.

I assume when she made her first post here, she used that name so people here would know who it was - although a lot of people on here, myself included, thought it was a sock puppet in her first few posts.

Yeah, she internalized that (very mild) abuse. Which was my point.

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34 minutes ago, 12 metre said:

it would appear that you clearly haven't been around since the beginning of this thread.  Squeaky was the nick name SA posters gave to her.

I assume when she made her first post here, she used that name so people here would know who it was - although a lot of people on here, myself included, thought it was a sock puppet in her first few posts.

I kinda giggled when I made the log in name! I COULD NOT BELEAVE SQUEAKY WASNT TAKEN! Lmao jk

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1 hour ago, MR.CLEAN said:

He has to blur your face as well as your voice.  

I dont think hes done the voice yet

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On 9/29/2020 at 1:56 PM, chuso007 said:

Maybe we should burn him in the stake first and then call the police.

 

Only if he weighs the same as a duck.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zrzMhU_4m-g

 

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8 minutes ago, Squeaky said:

I kinda giggled when I made the log in name! I COULD NOT BELEAVE SQUEAKY WASNT TAKEN! Lmao jk

 

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