I'd like to make a brief, somewhat-OT, statement about assisted living, care facilities, and "independence."
First of all, unless you live in a cave in Somalia, you're not really "independent." Think about what happens when the electricity goes out... as it does once in a while. OK great, but...
No advice, really, other than bring flowers and spend time with her.
Visiting my parents went from going out to sitting and talking to me sitting with them while they took a nap. But the time together was a gift for us all and they are pretty much the only humans on the planet who seem to enjoy...