That's how it's supposed to be.
The stark alternative is the Opti parents who don't themselves have an ounce of passion for sailing, showing up with $30,000 worth of gear and a truckload of high-pressured expectations because being on the sailing team when their kid is nine is going to get him...
Optimistically for humanity's future, I'll argue that there's a selection bias in play, and that the parents who enjoy family dinner with their kids are under-represented in this particular sample.
The trick, the magic, is to be able to see into the future a bit and to pad the sharp edges of the world just enough that mistakes will hurt but won't cause serious damage.