I see a similarity between the things you do before marriage, and the hope of doing those things after you're married.....The purpose of that deck strike noise first is to just give you a moment of hope…..only to snatch it away when it’s followed by the splash. When the boat gods really want to torture you it rolls/slides slowly along the toe rail and hesitates at a scupper just before it makes the dive.
Depends on how wisely you choose.
The first one died of breast cancer a few years after we divorced at age 46, my daughter was 10 years old at the time. But she calmed down a bit after the divorce and we had cordial relations until she passed. She was the mother of my only child (that I know of*). My second ex calls me at least once a month to chat and tells me she still loves me. I'm still married to the third one so...What do they have to say?
Years ago, my acrobatic instructor lost his wife to cancer. They were in their 60s. He sold the house in town, and drywalled off a 10x10 area of the hangar. Put an air conditioner in that space as it was southern Florida. Had the bed/kitchen/bath and the rest was hangar. I could have been happy with that.