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[Editor]

I was hoping to get some help/advice. I have been racing for about a year and have established myself on the bow. My problem is that my fellow foredeck crew member is "that guy." He has been sailing a few more years than I have, yet he still doesn't seem to get it. He constantly is questioning the tactics, the trim of the sails and anything. He can't go more than 2 minutes

without mentioning the current. Everyone who comes aboard notices how annoying he is and it has become a distraction during out races.He just turned 53 and is topping out at 250lbs.

My question is how do I deal with this guy? He goes to church with two of the co-owners so I doubt he will be kicked off the crew. They put him on foredeck so they wouldn't have to listen to him. Am I stuck having to deal with it? Should I push him over the side? Should I try to find another ride?

I have tried to be patient, but this guy is ruining sailing for me. Hope someone can help out.

P

Charleston, SC

 

[Tabman]

Here's WJWD

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[SPORTSCAR]

Set him up with a regatta chaser and take compromising photos. Send them to his Church. Game over!

 

[Ishmael]

Quietly mention to one of the owners that Brutus has come on to you and what should you do about it. Ask if $50 is too much to ask for a BJ.

 

[Somebody Else]

Set him up with a regatta chaser and take compromising photos. Send them to his Church. Game over!

When he's bending over picking up a dropped cotter pin, have our editor slip up behind him in one of his Halloween costumes with a maniacal grin plastered across his face. Take a picture of it.

That should get him kicked out of just about everywhere!

 

[tenbow]

Should I try to find another ride?

Bingo.

 

[peterivanac]

Forget the sailing problems..... it's the church that will f*ck with your head.

 

[jreisberg]

New ride. If you're not enjoying yourself, what's the point? Or, you could tell him to shut the fuck up and get in the sewer, and see what he says.

If this guy is 250 lbs. and on the bow, the boat you're on is either 80-100 feet, or the owner/skipper is a moron and doesn't know what the fuck he is doing. If the latter, find a new ride. No brainer.

 

[Keith]

Suggest the bow is far too heavy, and some of the movable ballast, should be out in the front position on the windward rail, for trim of course, and is also the perfect shape for blocking spay.

 

[TJSoCal]

If it's just chatter and it's otherwise a good boat I'd say HTFU and deal with it--just learn to tune him out. If he's actually screwing up crew work and/or causing a bad dynamic on the boat (or at least on your end of it) it's time to find another boat.

Although I also agree with Abilyn, unless it's a really big boat, it's hard to believe that boat is at all fast with 250+you on the bow.

 

[pogen]

Are his initials G. J. by chance?

What do I win?

 

[tuf-luf]

Does he have reptile-like skin, very bad breath and an ego that won't fit through the main hatchway?

 

[magic1637]

wwjed (jespito)

 

[aus732]

Take a bag of jelly beans with you. Every time he stops jabbering, throw him a jelly bean. He'll soon learn.

 

[hrrrk]

No one expects the spanish inquisition.....

Otherwise : If the guy is that heavy, you could as well point out to the owner that the front may fall off.....

 

[ragpicker46]

Assuming he reads this drivel, you've already done it. Wear a PFD and tether next time out.

 

[Matt DI]

P

I know you realize that the third owner of the boat visits this sight regularly and this is a not so subtle hint. Hang in there I'm working on the issue.

 

[RumLine]

For those saying 250 lbs is too heavy for the foredeck, what size boats do you race on? I typically see guys on the mast that are 6'4 and 250 lbs on 40 to 60 foot boats. Why? Because they have the leverage and the strength needed.

Sounds like you need to suggest to the owners that they speak to this guy and tell him to shut it. Mention that his yapping is causing a problem on the pointy end and could be effecting performance elsewhere. Be candid, but not overbearing...remember, you're getting a free ride here so you need to be polite. Honesty is incredibly important in crew dynamics and if you bottle up your feelings they'll come out at the worst possible time.

If that doesn't work, find another ride. You don't want to be on a boat with those sort of tensions and communication issues.

 

[Snaggletooth]

Honesty is incredibly important in crew dynamics and if you bottle up your feelings they'll come out at the worst possible time.

If that doesn't work, find another ride. You don't want to be on a boat with those sort of tensions and communication issues.

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